FIND YOUR VOICE
Objective:
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To understand the balance between passiveness and aggression
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Learning the art of Assertiveness
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To practise the strategy in expressing difficult feelings
The Benefits:
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Finding the confidence to confront difficulties
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To know when to speak and when not to
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Owning your emotions and speech in difficult times
When you express your feelings and thoughts without blame you take ownership of them.
OWN IT
"When you become more secure in your values and principles you can talk from a position of your own knowledge and authority."
Charmaine Lily
“I felt upset when we couldn’t meet up”
vs
“You made me angry when you cancelled”
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“I felt disappointed that I didn’t see you on my birthday”
vs
“You never show up for me when it’s important”
By owning your emotions you are in a better position to be reassured because the other party is less likely feel blamed or attacked.
You can even say to the person, what I need from you right now is...reassurance, a cuddle etc.
When you know what you need, it’s easier to ask for it.
We stop looking to our loved ones to guess what we need.
We can become more direct.
Our insecurities can be a hindrance to our body language and our speech.
When we feel inferior we can talk fast or quietly because we believe what we are saying has no value.
But everything you think and feel is necessary to take you to the next level, it is so valuable.
When you understand your journey you are in a better position to understand the journey of those you encounter.
Sharing your thoughts, feelings and stories is essential to feeling valued and heard.
The only way to increase competence in this area is to practise.
THE CHALLENGE
Make a 1 min video showing how you can deal with a difficult situation with composure and clarity.
a. Think of a scenario where you were faced with dealing with difficult feelings as a result of someone else’s actions.
b. Make a video of yourself
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Tell us the scenario
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Now confront that person with your feelings without blame
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Tell them what you know need as a result
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Practise speaking slowly and clearly, with confidence
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Practise calmness and composure
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Do as many takes as you need to get it right
THE POST
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Upload the 1 min video through to Instagram / Facebook
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Tag @myselfcentral
If your challenges are being done privately create a word doc to journal your video and thoughts.
THE CAPTION
Write:
I can be passive / aggressive / passive-aggressive (choose one) when I communicate difficult feelings.
Situations where I become most like this are?
I will be assertive when I speak from now onwards in order to get the outcome I want which is...
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MUST INCLUDE: (Copy & Paste)
#myscj2wnextmoves_4
#personalised hastag
NB your personalised hashtag will be
#mysc(first 3 letters of username and last 3 letters of username
e.g #myscmysral
THE COMMENTS
Once you have uploaded your pictures add #'s
MUST INCLUDE HASHTAGS (Copy & Paste)
#myselfcentral #myscj2wnextmoves #journeytowholenss #spawhereyouare #wowyourwardrobe #challengeyourself
Other OPTIONAL #'s: (Copy & Paste)
#speakout #assertive #passive #humility #reliable #resolution #inspirational #argue #confidence #empowerment #diligent #enhancement #grounded #hope #change #lawofattraction #mindset #principles #selfawareness #selfactualisation #selfesteem #selfdiscovery
BOOSTER
Click on the #myscj2wnextmoves_4 from your post
Like and Comment on at least 10 posts from other people who have taken this challenge
NB: The comment should be in the form of experience or advice. You should constructively critique the users video and where you see they can improve.
Be careful with your words and Be kind.
This is a Confidence Boosting Exercise.
This is a chance to give and receive constructive criticism. It may be hard, but you are encouraged only to respond with understanding and empathy. In turn this will develop your communication skills and ability to connect.**
THE WHOLE TRUTH
Body - Mind - Soul - Spirit
Enhance Conscious Responses on a Consistent Basis
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