“If They Don’t Matter, Then Why Mind?”
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To be confidence in your choice for fight and flight
To learn when to confront and how
To respond rather then react
When I realised I had abandonment and rejection issues I realised why I was defensive and angry in times of emotional distress.
It was easy for me to lash out and get sucked into petty situations as a way to vent my inner turmoil.
I saw how it affected my marriage but I learned through John Gray’s method how to go through the negative emotions with less collateral damage.
“You have to go through it to get to it!” RC Blakes
Anger can be expressed but it’s how it’s expressed that changes the outcome.
Using John Gray’s letter method from #mscenhanceMEantchallenge7 you can start to pick your battles wisely so that you are not constantly fighting to be heard.
By writing a private letter to person you have a grievance with first, you are able to process the emotions fully.
At this point you are able to rationally decipher if the emotions are worth communicating.
When faced with a troll, on social media or out in the real world, start to think whether this person is actually worth your time.
"There may be times when you do want to confront someone or enforce a boundary. This is perfectly acceptable, if it comes from a position of conscious responding rather then spontaneously reacting." Charmaine Sangari
Better yet, encourage them to start their own journey through Myself Central’s enhanceMEant Network, so that they have a healthy outlet for their opinions.
Process your emotions rationally before you react. This gives you control and you are empowered. You start to ACT rather then RE-act are not just reacting.
A – Accountability for your words
C – Composure – don’t let your message be blurred by blind rage
T – Time – give yourself time to process and the person time to understand
Whether it be with a spouse or during morning road rage remember to ACT.
Nurture the calmness that enhances your ability to respond with clarity.
Choose when and where you need to be heard and when it’s best to stay silent.
Learning the art of silence was a revelation to me.
To be aware of our surroundings we must be still and listen. That’s how you learn how to hear the snakes.
When you do hear them in your life, get rid of them or confront them.
To stay focused don't make time for pettiness.
RC BLAKES - Rise above pettiness
When the trolls come out to play “contain reckless, emotional irresponsible speech” don’t let them know your position.
When you become wise you learn to hold your tongue. When you are angry or emotional it is best not to speak.
You start fires with your mouth you cannot put out because you are too small in your speech and thinking.
"Surround yourself with people that are uplifting and supportive. Stop arguing with people that do not matter to you and your agenda."
These are people:
These people add NOTHING to your life!
This does not mean allow people to walk over you. But you can be conscious in your responses when you do decide to engage in a confrontation.
In most cases, leave the trolls under the bridge, stay calm and you cross over them. They are literally beneath you!
The law of reciprocity means that
“what goes around comes around”
It is a universal truth.
Find hope and security in that.
You need not get in the way.
"You wouldn’t give these trolls your money so don’t give them your time."
Mind over What Matter's
Think about trivial things that happen in your life that cause you to delve into the realms of anger, frustration, rage, guilt,shame etc
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